You may have heard many, many times that to be successful, you must set goals. True (okay, so the impression I give about goals in the title is a tad misleading). But to be intentional and to succeed as a person, not just as a student, you need to first set values.
Your goals should be determined from desirable values, a process that will make your goals more meaningful and ensure their relevance to your life after college. To be sure, your college experience shouldn’t be just about academics. It should lead you to personal growth, as well.
Let’s Get Valuable!
1. Make a list of the values you would like to achieve. Be sure to leave space beneath each value.
2. From these values, determine what academic and personal goals you would like to achieve. List each under their appropriate value(s).
3. Now brainstorm actions, behaviors, habits, resources (like this website!) needed to achieve your goals.
Now you have a value- and goal-based plan for success and personal growth. If you think you might need a complete overhaul to your approach to college, begin that process here and stay tuned to The Intentional Student.
In a conversation with my husband one evening, he remarked, “Everything revolves around relationships.” He’s absolutely right. And this is especially true of your college experience. The role and function of relationships is obvious in family, social, and work life. It’s college life where this is less obvious–and more complicated.
Before we get into the complicated role of college-life relationships, I would like you to make a quick list of the kind of relationships you currently have, or think you will have, in college. List as many as you can in 2 minutes.
So who’s on your list? Classmates? Check. Professors? Check. Your advisor? Check. Yourself? Ch . . . wait, what?
“What? A relationship with myself?” you ask. Absolutely! Self-awareness and how you relate to yourself is crucial for college success. But first, let’s take a look at the other relationships you have or should have during your college experience.
Your Classmates: Forging mutually helpful and respectful relationships with your classmates is vital to a successful and fulfilling college experience. Such relationships can benefit you academically, socially and emotionally–especially if you’re away from home for the first time and feel a bit homesick. Hopefully, at least one of your classes is taught by a professor who understands the importance of building community in the classroom and thus provides you with opportunities to get to know your classmates and to work with them during class. If not, you’ll need to take the initiative.
Introduce yourself to those sitting around you before class starts.
As you’re leaving class, strike up a quick chat with a classmate about the day’s lesson or a university event or organization you’re interested in.
After a few classes, ask someone who sits near you to trade contact information in case either of you misses class or loses class notes.
If there’s an older student in class, make it a point to get to know him or her. There’s much to gain from forging a relationship with an older student. As a college professor, I know that many older students are unsure about their place in a classroom full of 18-21 year-olds and appreciate connecting with and learning from their younger classmates. Yes, you, as a traditional college student, have something to offer non-traditional college students. This can be a very mutually rewarding and enlightening classmate relationship.
Your Professors: Taking the first step to establishing a supportive relationship with your professors can be nerve-wracking. But leaving your comfort zone is necessary to growth, and you can’t enjoy college success without changing some core aspects of yourself (more on that later).
Introduce yourself: This is a fairly painless way to establish a relationship with your professors.
Do this before (if you’re there early) or after class on the first day. Shake their hands as you do this. Also, it’s best to say more than your name by asking about something he/she talked about or making a sincere comment about the class. An insincere comment will be obvious and will ruin the positive impact of your introduction. Don’t worry if you’re too shy to say more than your name. Your professor will likely respond to your introduction with questions that will spark a brief exchange and put you at ease. At the least, he/she will of course say “Nice to meet you.” You will naturally respond and can easily and politely close the interaction with, “see you on [next class day].”
This simple act will go far with your professors–I promise. I’ve been teaching college English classes for 16 years and can count on one hand the number of students who have done this. It’s a rare gesture and one that leaves your professors with a very positive impression of you. And don’t worry if your nervousness shows. Your professor will recognize that you stepped out of your comfort zone and will appreciate the gesture even more--I promise.
Schedulevisits:This is a productive way to maintain this relationship–just make sure you’re aware and respectful of your professors’ office hours. If you’re struggling with the class, scheduling visits is absolutely necessary. If not, schedule a visit to have a brief chat about the class–your interest in it, a class-related concept or skill, etc. Or simply pop in to say “hi” and to wish him/her a good day, weekend, etc. I absolutely love it when a student does this! Sadly, it doesn’t happen often enough, but when it does, it’s a welcome interruption.
Be respectful of the class: An indirect way to maintain a mutually respectful and supportive relationship with your professors is to attend class regularly, be there on time, stay off your phone, turn inyour work ontime, and to generally conduct yourself in a way that lets him/her know you’ve read the course syllabus. Always review the syllabus before asking your professor about late work, make-up work, etc. You certainly don’t want to provoke this reaction:
Yes, we get that frustrated with questions that are answered in the syllabus (By the way, I have that shirt.).
Your Advisor: Typically, your advisor instigates this relationship–but you need to nurture it throughout the semester. Don’t wait until things get really bad or until registration begins to visit with your advisor. Maintain contact with him or her regularly throughout the semester–even if it’s just to say “Hi” and “Thank you” for the work they do for you and your fellow students. Advisors were once college students and some not all that long ago, so they can be helpful with a variety of academic and social problems. Not sure how to approach your professor about a particular issue? Talk to your advisor. Wondering how to handle a problem classmate? Talk to your advisor. Need study tips? Talk to your advisor.
Now, advisors are very busy and, in some cases, have overwhelming work loads. Therefore, you should always email or call your advisor to schedule an appointment. If you show up at your advisor’s office unannounced, he or she may not be able to help you right then. This may make you feel like your advisor doesn’t really have time for you and may discourage you from maintaining regular contact with him/her. But your advisor does have time for you–not always immediately though. So be respectful of your advisor’s time by scheduling appointments and keeping them. If you absolutely cannot keep your appointment, contact your advisor ASAP to reschedule. Don’tsimply say or write, “I can’t make it.” Offer some potential times to reschedule.
“A healthy relationship with your academic advisor can make your college life more successful and more connected at your university. Your academic advisor wants you to succeed and can provide you with information, resources, and guidance to help you make the best decisions regarding your academic career. ” Ms. Rachel Klauss, Academic Advisor Senior (Lamar University-Beaumont, TX)
You: Yes, you. You must grow and change to make it through college successfully, so there will be a new you to get to know and nurture. Relate to yourself in a way that shows you have self-confidence and self-respect. Interact with yourself through regular moments of self-reflection. These “conversations” should center on your actions, their effects, ways to adjust ineffective/negative behaviors and habits, and ways to capitalize on your effective/positive behaviors and habits. When you experience some successes–no matter how small—celebrate yourself!
Developing and maintaining relationships with the key people involved in your college education will ensure a fulfilling, rewarding, and less intimidating experience.
Who would you add to this list and why? Please share your insights!
In “New Semester Reset,” I provide the steps (and access to the step-by-step instructions) for developing an intentional approach to college. What follows complements that post, in that it highlights and defines the qualities at the core of this approach.
Awareness: Be aware of your strengths and weaknesses, as well as the effects of your actions, habits, and attitudes on your learning. Act uponthis awareness. You absolutely cannot be intentional if you stumble obliviously through your days. Taking the time to honestly reflect onthe reasons for your academic successes, struggles, and failures will lead you to this awareness. To act upon your awareness, you need to determine how your strengths, weaknesses, actions, etc. might need to change or be enhanced for the achievement of success. For the same reason you need to change your problem areas, you also need to capitalize on your strengths —> Don’t sacrifice enhancement of your strengths by focusing more or solely on your weaknesses. Both need to be lifted or one will eventually or continue to fall. If you hit a roadblock trying to determine these changes and enhancements, ask your advisor, a favorite professor, or me for help.
Reflection: This is crucial to achieving awareness. Develop the habit of self-reflection by keeping a learning log or journal. Spend a little time each day or a few days a week reflecting on the what and why of your successes, struggles, and failures–no matter how small. Write these in your log or journal. While daily reflection is ideal, it may not be realistic for you early in your transformation to an Intentional Student. It’s perfectly okay to develop this gradually as a daily habit.
Planning: You must become a planner! Plan your study time, your reflection time, your free time. Get and use a calendar! That hour between classes–what should you do with it? Is it the best time to eat, to study, to reflect, to relax? “Wait, what? Relax? Plan to relax?” you may be asking. Yes, you must be intentional about relaxation and social time. If that time isn’t planned, you will spend either too much time on these or not enough —> Down time is crucial to a successful and healthy approach to college. It will keep you mentally and physically balanced.
My Filofax planner:
week on 2 pages with To-Do page in between
Attitude: Maintain a positive attitude by acknowledging everysingle positive aspect of your days. Express your gratitude to those who grace you with moments of kindness and generosity–no matter how small. Celebrate your daily successes–nomatterhowsmall. Psychology– and education-based research proves that a positive mindset leads to a less stressful and more successful life, strengthens confidence, and boosts your brain power making learning easier.
Being aware, reflecting, planning, and maintaining a positive attitude are at the heart of the intentional approach to college. The beauty of these actions is that they will serve you well not only in college but also in the real world.
HARSH TRUTH #1: What you learn in the classroom will not be enoughfor real-world success. Just ask all those college graduates out there flipping burgers and waiting tables. Actually, don’t ask them. They might blame the job market, which is likely not the whole truth. A lackof intention and professional and relational skills usually bears a good portion of the blame. These skills and quality of character, while not needed to earn a college degree, are needed to overcome troubled times. Why might these unfortunate graduates be oblivious to this lack?
HARSH TRUTH #2: Because these skills and qualities of character necessary for success are typically not part of a college education and, again, aren’t necessary to earn a college degree. A traditional college education provides academic knowledge but doesn’t always teach how to leverage that knowledgeand to conduct oneself in a purposeful and professional way in the job market.*
HARSH TRUTH #3: The knowledge you obtain in college isn’t always enough to land you a position in your chosen career field or ensure that you’re successful and capable of advancement in that career. You need to supplement your degree with a defined purpose, professional and relational skills and habits of intention.
As you progress through the semester, you must put equal focus on academic success and personal growth. Your academic success will get you through college, but college success is not your ultimate goal. Life success is, and it takes more than a degree to achieve it.
*HOMESCHOOLERS: I wrote this for my previous website targeted to college students. However the information is relevant also to homelearners who need to evaluate and adjust their approach to learning.
It’s just about time to head back to college, and you’ll be doing so either confidently, apprehensively, or maybe even begrudgingly. Either way, you’ve already achieved your firstwin of the semester by goingback–congratulations! Why is this a win? Because it shows your dedication, persistence and self-value. You need to recognize these qualities in yourself because they’re vital to your success. And you’ll need them in larger doses throughout the semester.
What’s in Your Backpack?
Whether you’re returning to college with a backpack full of confidence or apprehension, there’s something useful for you here, so stick with me. Those of you who will start the new semester full of confidence, please help your fellow students by sharing any tips and advice you might have in the Reply section below. Indeed, part of being an Intentional Student is being a helpful member of your student community.
As you head back to class, keep in mind that college success is not just about academics: it’s also about attitude, persistence, and character. When you leverage all of these, you become intentional about your learning, and the habits and mindset gained will be of tremendous advantage to you also in life and work. The actions listed below, when done consistently and sincerely, willbetruly transformative for you. Not only will they lead to deep self-awareness and control, they will also transform you into (cue superhero music) an Intentional Student.
Are you ready to . . .
identify –>focus –>attack
Get access to this transformative process here. Please specify “Reset” in the help section.